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03/16/2012

The Weight of a Secret: Stacey Lewis

Welcome to WABC TV’s Reset Your Life: The Revolution Blog!  I am a huge fan of the brand new ABC Daytime show, “The Revolution.” It is dedicated to transforming every aspect of your life from health and fitness to your home and your style.  Each Friday, this blog will address the transformation of the “heroes” on the show.  It also includes daily meal plans, exercise routines and playlists of music contributed by experts in the tri-state area to help get you motivated to reset your life! 

I wanted to start this blog, because like thousands of women in the tri-state, I too have struggles and triumphs with weight.  I have had major weight losses and gains in the last 11 years. The highs and lows on the scale correspond with the highs and lows I've experienced through school and college, work and the challenges of adult life.  Currently, I have found myself once again in the middle of a weight loss journey.  I feel social pressure about weight surrounds us every day and can add or take away from our self-esteem.  I also feel it’s important for women to talk about it in an open forum.  I would like to open up this space and encourage you to share your weight loss struggles and success stories with me. I would also love to hear about the music that motivates you!  Please leave your comments below. 

This week, we followed the very emotional and personal story of 45-year-old Stacey Lewis. She is a mother of three beautiful children.  She has been married for 19 years. When we first met Stacey, she said she hadn't really cared about her looks for the last six years and gained weight.  We also learned she had been hiding a secret from her family for the last 40 years.  But, through her revolution in the last five months, she revealed the secret to her mother and husband and moved forward.  She was molested from the time she was five-years-old to 12-years-old.  She said the secret was getting too big to manage and she saw herself falling into an abyss.  We found her at a place in her life when she was ready to lose physical weight and the weight of the secret. 

When her daughter was interviewed, we saw how Stacey's weight affected the weight of her daughters.  One of them said she doesn't feel good about her weight because she doesn't look like her friends.  Stacey felt responsible because she brings the food into the home.  Dr. Jen explained having an overweight parent increases a teen's chances of being an overweight adult by 80-percent.

This is a picture of Stacey on the first day of her revolution.

Dr. Tiffanie explained to Stacey her secret is not her burden to carry anymore.  Dr. Tiffanie said it's too heavy and that's what's making her heavy. Dr. Tiffanie said you have to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough

In her second month, Stacey shared her secret with her mother. She said the most important thing to her was to hear her mother say it was going to be okay.  Isn't that so true?  No matter the circumstances, or how old we are, we still look to our mothers for comfort. 

This is Stacey on day 90.  She says she really got into boxing and found she was able to release her emotions and feel in control. Stacey also got into Zumba.

Stacey renewed her vows with her husband during the fourth month of her revolution.  In a sweet moment when Stacey's son heard the news, he said, "Are you going to say A,E, I, O, U?"  He thought his parents were renewing their VOWELS!  So cute! 

In a unique twist, we learned Stacey found a support system through the Harris sisters!  Remember them?  We met them in the first week! 

 This is Stacey on day 120.

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In the day of her big reveal, her children said their momma is confident and beautiful!  SO TRUE! She came out in tears. Harley said she is pretty much unrecognizable. Dr. Tiffanie gave her credit for sharing her deepest, darkest secrets with the nation.  What a sweet and deserving woman.  She says her relationship with her family has improved, she feels liberated and can walk in her purpose. She gave a HUGE thanks to her husband and thanked him for loving her.  :)

**SPECIAL PROGRAMMING NOTE**

Next Wednesday (3/21) on "The Revolution," the co-hosts will focus on all things postpartum. Some of the highlights include: Ty learns how to change a diaper; Dr. Jen discusses postpartum changes with three new mothers; Dr. Jen and Dr. Tiffanie discuss postpartum depression and Keri Glassman (Women’s Health Magazine) joins Harley to talk about mood-boosting power foods.  I spoke with Dr. Jen ahead of Wednesday's show and she gave me some important advice to share.

Dr. Jennifer Ashton  is a New Jersey OB-GYN.  Her office is in Englewood.  Dr. Jen said there is an enormous social stigma surrounding postpartum depression, despite that we're in the year 2012.  Dr. Jen said there has to be a change in that thinking.  It affects 13 percent or more women following birth.  It usually appears within the first couple of weeks, but it could take up to a year.  She said it's not a matter of a woman being "wimpy" and it's not something they should "just get over." It is a serious medical condition.  Dr. Jen says telling someone to "tough it out" is like telling a cancer patient to get over their nausea.  Patients who come to see her with postpartum depression are crying all the time and say they are unable to engage with their infant.  Women will say they don't feel like themselves and Dr. Jen says that could put lives at stake.  

She takes an aggressive approach in helping her patients with postpartum depression.  She gets the patient's husband or partner involved.  She gets the patients started on antidepressant medication, addresses nutritional deficiencies and says seven hours of non-interrupted sleep is a must.  That means another person may have to get involved in the care of the infant during that time period.  It's also important to engage in behavioral or talk therapy to learn coping strategies.  

Dr. Jen wants to emphasize this doesn't make someone less of a mother.  She says women should think of it no differently than having high blood pressure during pregnancy. 

I also asked Dr. Jen for her input on this news this week: A government panel found most women can go as long as five years between cervical cancer screenings as long as they make sure to get both a Pap smear and an HPV test when they do get examined.  The interval between cervical cancer screenings can safely be extended for women between the ages of 30 and 65, according to the new recommendations from the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force.  Women ages 21 to 30 should still get a Pap smear every three years, the interval currently recommended. But those younger than 21 and older than 65 can skip the screen altogether, the experts concluded.  The panel is urging a extended intervals in screenings in an attempt to cut back on the number of women who end up being treated for lesions that might resolve on their own.  The downside could be a very small potential increase in the number of women who might die of cervical cancer, experts said.  “It’s a trade-off,” said Dr. Michael LeFevre, co-vice chair of the task force and a professor of family and community medicine at the University of Missouri at Columbia. 

Dr. Jen says the reason for the spacing in the Pap spears is that cervical cancer is a slow-going cancer process.  She wants to emphasize it's still up to the patient to decide if they want the tests every year, for now.  She also wants you to know the guidelines should NOT make you feel you can skip a visit to the OB-GYN. It's important for patients to visit their OB-GYN every year for other needed exams. 

Dr. Jen has also just released a book! She told me it's information given as if your best friend is a gynecologist.  She says she compiled the information after helping her patients for eleven years, day in and day out, learning what works and what doesn't.  It's called YOUR BODY BEAUTIFUL: Clockstopping Secrets to Staying Healthy, Strong and Sexy in Your 30s, 40s and Beyond.  It reminds us that by looking at midlife with a fresh, new mindset, we can look, feel and be healthier and better than ever.  You can find the book at Dr. Jen's website here: http://www.drjenniferashton.com/

I hope you are encouraged to either start your own revolution or vamp up your journey.  Here are some tools to help.

 

MEALS

Our daily meal plans are provided by Samina Kalloo, RD, CDN.  She is a Registered and Certified Dietitian residing in New York City.  She utilizes her training in nutrition science and education to convey accurate, evidence-based information to a wide range of audiences including consumers, registered dietitians and other health care professionals.  Samina has worked as a nutrition consultant, researcher and writer on behalf of USA RICE Federation, The Cranberry Institute and KIND Healthy Snacks.  Samina Kalloo’s website is: gethealthywithsamina.com.

Healthy Meal Plan (Day 9)

Breakfast:

1 hard-boiled egg

1 cup whole grain cereal (look for a brand with at least 8 grams of dietary fiber)

Serve with: 1 cup nonfat milk and

1 small orange

water

***Healthy tip: Eggs are packed with nutrients! Although the yolk has a high fat content, it’s packed with nutrients! Enjoy at least 2 per week (also depending on any therapeutic diet you may be following)

Lunch:

3-ounces grilled chicken

Serve with: 1 cup steamed spinach

½ cup cooked lentils

1 cup grapes (try them frozen!)

water

Dinner:

3 oz grilled salmon

Serve with: greek salad (1/4 cup fat-free feta cheese, 2 cups romaine lettuce, 1/3 tomato, 1/3 cup cucumber, 2 tablespoon chopped red onion, 5 black olives sliced)

½ whole wheat pita

1 cup honeydew

water 

Snacks:

1-6 oz cup nonfat greek yogurt with ¼ cup canned peaches, rinsed

2 tablespoons hummus served with 5 baby carrot sticks

Nutrition Facts for the Entire Day’s Worth of Meals:

1565 calories, 25g dietary fiber, 201g carbohydrates, 145g protein, 24g total fat, 6.7g saturated fat, 300mg Cholesterol, 1,659mg sodium

**If you have a specific question pertaining to your diet or weight loss goals, you can contact a dietitian in your area by visiting eatright.org.

EXERCISE

This week, Harley shows us how to work off steam and burn calories! He calls it his "90 Seconds of Pure Madness."

  

I also wanted to share these tips from Harley with you.  Stacey used stuff around her home to help her with her exercise routines to lose weight.  You'll see Harley's tips for turning ordinary items into workout equipment below.

 

MUSIC

Finally, the music to get you motivated!  My amazing, awesome and athletic friend who lives in Downtown Brooklyn, Tiffany Jackson, shared a third playlist with us this week.  She's so cute!  She had originally committed to two lists, but we got such a great response, she decided to create one more list for us.  Thank you, Tiff!  Let me know what you think and send me your own playlist.  Enjoy your workout!

PLAYLIST 9:

Somewhere I Belong--Linkin Park           

Feeling This--Blink-182  

She Wolf--Shakira

Bleed It Out--Linkin Park

Lady Don't Tek No (EXPLICIT)--Latyrx    

Funky Kingston--Toots & The Maytals    

Forever--Chris Brown    

2 In the Morning--Lightly Stoopid                                               

A Million Years--Alexander                    

Golden Days--The Damnwells

Life, Love & Laughter--Donavon Frankenreiter    

Radioactive--Kings of Leon       

Wheels--Foo Fighters   

That's Life--Frank Sinatra                                               

She Ain't You--Chris Brown       

Wasting Time--Jack Johnson     

Hide and Seek--Imogen Heap    

Kiss Me Goodbye--Johnathan Rice       

This Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)--Talking Heads   

All At Once--Pete Yorn  

Beast of Burden--The Rolling Stones     

Let me know how you're doing on your own revolution! I'll see you again next week with another meal plan, exercise routine and playlist!       

**This program is not intended to provide medical advice. Please consult with your doctor for treatment of any medical condition and before beginning any diet or exercise regimen.**

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