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09/15/2011

Pat Robertson says Alzheimer's Makes Divorce OK

Religious broadcaster Pat Robertson told his "700 Club" viewers that divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer's is justifiable because the disease is "a kind of death."  Do you agree with him or do you believe in the traditional vows of "in sickness and in health, 'til death do us part"?  Click COMMENT below to share your thoughts.  Your comments may appear on Eyewitness News.

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Cynthia Buckner

I would not agree on him. Never should one partner leave the other for the reason alone. They promised in front of the Lord to be at it’s side regardless the situation.

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The philosophy is quite wrong in so many ways. You don't get divorced if your partner is ailing. It is a ground for selfishness.

greg rich

I am troubled at the hatred that this advice has started. as Christians we have the responsibility of being faithful to our vows. I do not agree with Pat's advice ,however the man seeing another women while his wife is still alive is considered adultery and he also is in need of the reminder of his marriage vows.The Word says no adulterer can go to heaven, so the bigger issue here is not how wrong Pat's advice is but where is this man's relationship with Christ? Pat is a man who loves God, he is not perfect and the Word admonishes us to put our trust in God not man. For all the good the 700 club has done because of Pat Robertson following after God for all these years people obviously need to remember from where we came. I know we respect Pat for his opinions in the past and for his committment to God and the very good and sound advice he has on many issues and I am very sure he would take that comment back if he could but anyone claiming to be a Christian needs to be very careful how big a stone they throw, for your life is not yet over and you will surely need grace as you walk.God's riches blessings and favor on all of you.

Newelette J. Stevenson

I guess that our only conclusion can be is that Pat Robinson, has been a christian for 60 years and hasn't learned the basics about GOD's laws, or it may be that he is experiencing symptoms of Alzheimers as well. It's such a shame that many americans have lost touch with the meaning of being a christian. I see so little compassion in many americans. I will do all that I can do about this situation, Just Pray!

June

Pat Robinson, who are you to "give someone permission" or to know that God would give permission to break one of the rules from His word? My parents were married for 63 years. My father spent the last 13 years of his marriage taking care of my mother who had Alzheimers Disease. Even in the last stages, she would still smile when he spoke to her or just held her hands. She was never in a nursing home.Dad and a caretaker took care of her every day and in a great way. Even when she didn't know who I was, I could still talk with her and hug her. At least she knew people cared. She was very much alive and very well cared for! My dad did not just toss away those years of marriage. He doesn't think he did anything noble or heroic. He said he was living up to the vows of marriage and that she would have done the same for him. It is the greatest love story I have ever witnessed in action.
There are ministers, pastors and preachers. You, Pat Robertson, might be a preacher, but that's as far as it goes with you.

Leah

Oh sure. Why would a religious person be as ignorant as to tell people that it is fine to brake your vows. I could have sworn that "in sickness and in health" was part of them. But by all means, toss someone out like garbage when they become ill. As long as we are tossing them away, lets get rid of our sick children too. Get a grip, play the cards you are given.

bill geissinger

I don't think that the rev. robertson is being very christian or maybe the alzheimer's is setting in

Andrea S. Halbfinger

As a widow of a man who got early onset Alzheimer's at 54, and was sick for 8 years before he passed away, I don't think anyone who has not experienced this should make judgments. Some people will find solace in caring for their spouse as marriage vows expect. I did until he became violent and did not really know who I was (near the end.) At that point, I had to put him in a nursing home, where I visited him almost daily and came at different times so the staff would care for him properly. IT is very difficult and very lonely. The last three years of his life he could not follow tv programs or read books; we could not share any discussions. There were a few lucid moments, and in one of them, he encouraged me to find someone else when he passed away, because he knew I would not be happy alone. ALl the moments of lucidity were precious, but they were few and far apart. I left the nursing home the last few months, crying in the elevator. All my tears were shed before he died--of pneumonia from aspirating a grape. It was a terrible time and an awful thing to see the light go out of his eyes. He had been a brilliant lawyer and a member of Mensa, who could do three things at once. I miss him every day.

Gail Simon

As I'm still wiping the tears from my face after watching the
clip of the lovely old couple lying together-while the husband singing
to his Alzheimers afflicted wife, I can only begin to wonder where Pat
Robertson thought he had the right to make comment and give advice
to one of his followers, when he has NO medical authority or medical
education to know what victims of Alzheimers can feel or understand.
My favorite aunt is now in the final stages of Alzheimers and it was devastating
for me the first time she didn't remember who I was. I ran out of the room
hysterically crying. It is the cruelest of diseases-and just as cruel to the loved ones of those afflicted, both emotionally and due to the difficulty in caring for them.
Sadly, in these times, with so many people getting divorced and not making it to the "death" part of the marriage vows.
But for those who do, such as the beautiful couple you featured tonight, NOTHING-not ALZHEIMERS nor DEATH will ever part them...
The couple you featured brought to mind the heartbreaking scene in "The Notebook" when James Garner's character, not wanting to see his wife(played Gena Rowlands) suffer any longer from Alzheimers, gives her something to put her in an eternal sleep...and then takes the same-and they die together holding hands in bed....
Your story tonight was both spot on and handled a very sensitive subject with delicacy and dignity.
Thank you and Bravo!
Gail Simon
New York NY

Joe Guglielmo

I think Mr. Robertson should have more compassion,especially since he is supposed to be a man of god. I can tell you after losing my mother in law this past June, to the desease. It truly is a demoralizing desease. It takes great sacrafices on all family members involved.I loved her very much and miss her dearly, but I know she has her dignity back. She had the love and support of her family and died at home with all of us around her, not alone in a nursing facility. So I know in my heart if my wife were to suffer the same fate, I would not leave her like a dog. I would take care of her as long as I am able to, which is what I meant when I said "I Do, In Sickness and In Health"...

Linda from Long Island

THATS IS HORRIBLE !!!
I disagree with this statement "as a kind of death. I agree with the traditional vows til death do us part. My mom is 80 years old just celebrated there 59 wedding anniversary, has alzheimers, is in a nursing home and tells my Dad who is 82 every day the traditional vows for better of worse richer or poorer , till death due us part.... so she still is thinking of him.....!!!

thw

Whether or not to divorce is a personal decision. However, the video of the elderly man comforting and singing to his wife with dementia was heart breakingly touching!

S.Y.Williams

As a Christian woman I think it is very sad for a pastor to tell someone that it is ok to divorce your spouse because they have Alzheimer's. What's next? Will it be ok to divorce your spouse because they have Cancer? NO. I believe in "in sickness and in health, til death do us part"

Jennifer Flynn

Thank you Jim Dolan for being forthright and reminding the viewers of right from wrong when "religious leaders" seem to have forgotten. Til death do us part still matters to some of us.

Theresa G

"til death do us part" no matter what...when a man and a woman marry and make a promise; it's a covenant they have made with each other and God...

Valerie

I think Mr Robertson has never been truly in love. And should go BACK and re-read the bible.

noreen somma

I love my husband enough that I would stick with him and hope he would do the same for me after 49 years :)

James W. Killian

Sure if you are an amoral or immoral person such as Newt Gingrich or Pat Robertson why not. However if you believe as I think most of us do that you have a moral obligation to your spouse, I don't quite understand how you can fudge it.

Lenny Mayeux

No, I don't agree. From a religious point of view they are not dead, from a medical point of view they are not dead, it's not a kind of death it's no death. but, what it is? an illness which the vows taken said you will stand by and support, not leave for greener pastures. Either you are dead or not, or you believe in the vows or Not. Clearly he does not believe in the vows..

Jody808

I don't agree with Mr. Robertson, seems out of character for him to say such a thing. I wonder if he would think
this way if he came down with Alheizmer's Disease.

Barbara Reader

I'd like to hear the entire thing he said in context. I dislike the man, I think he is anti-Godly, but I'd still like to hear this in context. Would it also be OK to divorce if the person developed another mental illness? How about a coma patient, or somebody who was "locked in?"

carolyn

i watch someone with alzhiemers and some times they look for there spouse u should do things u want ,im sure she would not have done that to u

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